It's good to see new players wanting to expand the playerbase. To me, the biggest problem this mod has, aside from its somewhat higher learning curve and problems with hit detection, is the fact that nobody sticks around. Having played the mod more-or-less consistently since summer of 2009, I have seen countless faces come and go, usually not sticking around longer than a month - I've been lucky to see some people stick around longer than a few weeks or even DAYS really. I don't know what the big deal is either, because most of the people who end up never coming back are like you, in that they're really excited about how cool and fun and nostalgic the game is, and then they just vanish.
The mod unfortunately doesn't get a lot of exposure, and attempts have been made to fix that, and are still being made.
Vinesauce, a reasonably notable streamer, streamed the game to his fans on
Traitor's Gate (my server) and we were hoping it'd make a splash, but unfortunately it kind of petered out before long, in that nobody affiliated with the stream stuck around for longer than a few days, except for one recent newcomer. Some of my friends have made attempts to plug the mod in other places, but often times it just doesn't work out. We either get players or go away almost immediately, or NOTHING happens at all. We're also kind of stuck in an unfortunate lull that tends to happen several months after a new version comes out. These are usually the worst because at times like this, just about nobody is playing, and that hurts the mod. I do what I can to play, but even with as persistent as I've been, I can't just hang around by myself waiting for people to join all the time - that gets old quick.
If you're looking to play, the best times are usually to wait until around the evening (eastern time). During the day, especially weekdays, there's barely any activity, but at night, more people come out to play. You can usually find me on my friends playing on Traitor's Gate ({{TG}}) at those later times, and we have fun on there. Whatever you do - don't give up! Keep telling your friends and spreading the word about the mod. It would be very disappointing to see you disappear like so many others have before you. The mod definitely deserves more exposure and is a blast to play after all this time, and we need more new faces who will stick around. You don't have to play every day, but make an effort to play maybe a few times a week or so - that's good enough.
(Just as a side note - on the ingame server list, if you can only see like two servers at a time, untick the "show map list" button and refresh. Then all the available servers should appear. Make sure you tell others about this too, since this could be an issue in finding servers over than WNx, which is always available.)